When I was in the Air Force as a Mental Health Technician I had the opportunity to meet a lot of suicidal patients. After crossing back into the civilian world I couldn’t help but think that things would be different. Yet everyday you hear of a tycoon who lost $1 billion of his $8 billion dollar fortune and turns to suicide. The rest of us just stop and think… hello Einstein, you have $7 billion left… but depression doesn’t care about how much money is in the bank. It’s an underlying issue.

It’s the moments when the sharp pencils on your desk look more like projectile objects. When life is just too hard and overwhelming to face. I’ve been there, I’ve done that. The only viable option outside of myself was Jesus. I’m not the type of guy to sing Cumbaya. I am on the other hand the type of guy who had lost hope in life when Jesus pulled me out of a blanket of darkness surrounding me. I don’t know, maybe you’re in your cubicle writing some Ruby on Rails code for Microsoft wondering if life is worth living. Jesus wants to show you the light too.

After all, He is the Way, the Truth, and the Life.

I’m back from a hiatus of my Mind Flare blog. A lot has happened the last year and I’m all the more excited for what God has in store for my future. I am climbing the ranks of corporate America and realize that now, more than ever, we need God in the marketplace.

It’s a delicate balance. A balance that has been thrown off somewhere in the last half a century or so. The traditional family is no more… all too common we see children being raised by single parents. My question is what happened? I believe that the American Dream happened. Drive a BMW, travel, have a house on the hill with a white picket fence… all at the expense of quality time with family. Eventually… the castle built on sand crumbles into divorce, bankruptcy, and despair. God tells us that we can either serve Him or money… not both.

If working toward the American Dream isn’t the answer in the marketplace… then what is? After all… the average American spends more time with his/her co-workers than with their own family! That’s just a fact of life.

The answer is to reflect God in everything you do. To be the best of the best. To work unto God, not to man.

If Elijah could pray for an abundant rain. If Daniel could pray for God to shut the mouths of lions. Imagine what we can do in the marketplace… after all, these warriors of the faith DIDN’T have the Holy Spirit and we DO!

God wants to turn the wealth of the wicked over to those who love Him but it takes faith on our part and faith without works is… dead. May we shine with the countenance of Jesus. May we blaze like the fire in His eyes. May we work unto the Lord for an eternal reward consisting of gold, silver, and precious jewels rather than the temporal things consisting of wood, hay, and straw. May the fire burn away the dross that we may impact the marketplace for the one true King!

Everybody has been getting all nimbly bimbly and amped up over “The Secret” as well as other tips and tricks in Eastern Philosophical format. To be honest with you, for our society to fall prey to new concepts as absolute truth is ludacris. I hear stuff like this all the time. Live by this magical formula, take these 10 easy steps, go see so and so, etc. Where is the fruit? Don’t get me wrong, there are books out there that have a wealth of information that lead to success but how far are you really willing to go? The Bible says what good is it to gain the entire world yet forfeit your soul? Why are multi-millionaires often the emptiest people in the world? Why does happiness seem so impossible to obtain in America?

I too have wondered these questions and asked God, how can I find happiness? The truth is I was asking the wrong question. I feel like that Steven Hawking holographic dude from iRobot beating around the bush until Will Smith finally asks the right question. His ears flare up and he finds the key to destroying artificial intelligence… yay, the end, all the robots become friends and human slavery is postponed. Our lives are outside of the lights and cameras and to be brutally honest most of us don’t want to think that far down the road. I think the real question is how can I live a life of fulfillment? Fulfillment always leads to happiness, yet the void remains. Marriage doesn’t fill it. Success in business doesn’t fill it. What is this intrinsic emptiness that longs to be filled?

I searched for years. Drugs. Women. Marriage. Wreckless Spending. Sex. Kids. Some were harmful but some were great blessings! I have found that nothing can fulfill like surrenduring to God. I have found that there is a door in every man’s heart. On the other side of that door lies a void that can only be filled by the master of the universe (not He-man). The God who devised the very fabric of time longs to be the answer. The key to unlocking this door lies in surrender. You surrender your life over only to gain everything. Let’s just be honest here… you could gain the entire world but you will keep craving more until that void is filled. I’ve lived, learned, and made my choices. Today the void is filled and somehow the rest of my life is falling into place.

How difficult would it be to meditate for a few minutes on the reality that you too might have this unexplainable void? The temporary pleasures almost always seemingly come back to that one question don’t they? Welcome to my world.

As I pursue the development of my character I am reminded of a common practice in the Air Force called a “FOD Walk.” Airports around the world commonly use this term which is their way of saying, “Alright everyone, time to pick up trash.” FOD stands for Foreign Object Damage. In this case, everybody lines up side by side and walks up and down the flight line slowly looking for the smallest rocks or debris (as even a microscopic object has the potential to damage a multi-million dollar jet).

When you are born again by the blood of Jesus He comes and does a remodel of your home. When I gauge where I am at I see that God has cleaned up the obvious issues in my life: lust, partying, drugs, alcohol, sex, etc. but it’s the little things that I am worried about that are a lot more subtle and less obvious… the microscopic things like gossip, white lies, bitterness, or littering. I stare down the proverbial flight line of my life and although the obvious obstacles have been removed it is a continual process of combing my life to ensure that the little things don’t destroy me. In the Air Force the only things that are guaranteed are the FOD walk, death, and taxes.

See… allowing the smallest hint of impurity has the potential to destroy the temple that God is building in you. A rotten egg spoils the bunch, a flaw in a diamond decreases its value, and the stray rock destroys the aircraft. I see these issues continually coming out of nowhere and it is a process of cleaning it up one rock at a time. The process never stops. Do yourself a favor and perform a couple FOD walks in your life. You might be surprised what you find. Sure, it sucks and it takes a lot of time and energy but in the end it might just save your life.

I am not the perfect model for character in the workplace. In fact I have had my share of shortcomings. From the ages 15-18 I had close to 12 jobs. Part of it was due to the fact that once I conquered the learning curve then the job became mundane. I’ve always liked a challenge. In the process of this I somehow lost my integrity, character, and work ethics.

My first son was born back in ’03 and I joined the Air Force. They drill into you the core values of the service which are: Integrity First, Service Before Self, and Excellence in All We Do. I can buy that. Still, something was lacking. I had no motivation whatsoever. I viewed work as a means to an end and nothing more. Perhaps it’s because I knew that it wasn’t my career, maybe not?

After gaining and leaving multiple jobs in the real world I realized that being a man of character is a decision that you have to make everyday. There’s no golden Web 2.0 app that will teach you to not procrasinate or a blog on how to get motivated that can substitute for a determination that you will be a man of character, virtue, and integrity.

I’ve made my decision and to be honest it is a continual effort. They say that forming a habit takes around a month but for the habit to truly become a part of your everyday life that it is a 6 month process. I see my generation sinking to the bottom of the barrel while the baby boomers are left nodding their heads. I read stories and users’ comments that blow my mind. I look at the state of our country and realize that we need a savior and His name is Jesus.

We need Him in our schools, in our workplace, and in our coffee shops. In the Bible it says that one day every knee shall bow and every tongue shall confess that Jesus Christ is Lord. We live in a democracy and the thought of bowing to anybody is unorthodox and ludacris but I believe the words. There’s just something in the name of Jesus isn’t there? People scream out the name in vain. There are wars, disputes, miracles, and revolutions by that name. Some create their own version of Jesus and pawn it off on the rest of the world but I want the organic Jesus. The Jesus who loved and came to set the world free, because when you find the real Jesus… work, finances, your marriage, and everything in between seems to fall in place. There is power in His name.


I am at a new place in my life where setting up boundaries is critical. When I really dig to the core issue of what boundaries are I think of a story that I heard about regarding elementary students in a schoolyard. Some teacher probably wanted to prove some hypothesis he was working on and got the principal to sign off on it and it goes like this:

The school faculty setup a fence around the perimeter of the school yard and let the children play for a week. The next week they removed the fence to test the conduct of the children. Surprisingly the majority of the students didn’t leave the perimeter although the fence was removed.

It’s a great story and all but I want to know how does this apply to me personally? Digging to the core of the matter we see that boundaries are symbolic of protection through all walks of life. As a business man or woman you need to setup boundaries for the types of practices and ethics that you will allow to run your company. As a Christian you need to establish boundaries to protect each area of your life.

Setting up boundaries isn’t easy. I remember as a child I used to see the boundaries as a way of holding me back. The higher the fence, the better the challenge! If there was barbed wire I would find a way to bypass the danger. When I grew up and matured I realized that boundaries were established to protect me from something or to protect something from me.

Setting up boundaries in relationships gives you freedom to live life within the constrains of the predetermined boundaries. I am newbie at respecting the boundaries and am applying these principles to every facet of life: the law, work ethics, raising my kids, and building relationships. Somehow I know that respecting the boundaries will teach me to be a better man. I’m looking forward to the journey.


According to Wikipedia the Salamander’s name originates from natives that believed that the Salamander could walk through fire. Fast forward to the 21st Century, tune into the Discovery Channel and you see Bear Grylls from Man Vs. Wild roasting a Salamander over a fire to a tender crisp. See, the natives thought that the lizard was immune to the extreme heat and that they could walk through fire. Come to find out they were wrong. Dead wrong.

As individuals raised in a goal oriented society we have become a people that talk the talk but when worst comes to worst we don’t walk the walk. We bank on our 401k’s, our IRA funds, and all of the other perceived securities in this life and believe that they can take us through the fires and storms. That is until the stock market gets shaky… the housing market fails… the marriage turns sour. Immediately all the talk and all the speculation and all of the building dissolves before your eyes and you find yourself smack dab in the heat of the inferno.

The sad part is very few can withstand the heat. These people perceive that everything is peachy keen until they get thrown into the fire and shrivel up like a Salamander. These people simmer in the heat for a while until they near boiling point and buckle under the pressure. Unbeknownst to them that they were on the virge of breakthrough. The people that have left a legacy in this world are those who talked the talk, were thrown into the fire, and instead of buckling from the heat they used it as a catalyst to overcome the most overwhelming odds. Racism… false doctrine… slavery… the list goes on.

God can use people that are willing to endure the fires of life. You might get scorched at times. You might even catch on fire. But the ashes are a representation of a sacrifice that changed the world. I don’t want to be known as a Salamander do you?

o1. Start by adding anyone and everyone that you already know; whether they’re acquaintances, past colleagues, or the Starbucks barista that aspires to be the next Meg Whitman. Whoever has the gold makes the rules. Apply this methodology to your number of your LinkedIn connections and you too may end up with the perfect client in your 2nd or 3rd level contacts.

o2. Determine how you want to use LinkedIn. If you are looking for a new job and want to land that prime McKinsey interview then work on building up your references. If you’re a prodigy you probably won’t have to beg for references. For the rest of us you can take a colleague out for coffee and offer to write them a reference in exchange. If your primary goal for LinkedIn is to generate leads then position your profile in a way that doesn’t scare off potential clients. Put yourself on the other side of the fence; would you want to do business with someone who has “Cut Throat Sales Tyrant” on their tagline? Neither would I.

o3. Tweak your LinkedIn profile settings. Click on the Accounts & Settings link. Activate the OpenLink Network and ensure that My Public Profile displays your full information. Take Step 2 into consideration and craft your settings around whatever you want to get out of LinkedIn.

o4. Build up your elite clientele. After adding people that you already know you can start adding perfect strangers. Many people advise you to add as many 500+ LinkedIn gurus as possible for the sheer viral effect but I would rather add key industry leaders in my niche and tap into their small network than take the shot gun approach. Quality over quantity folks (after you get past the 30 contact milestone of course).Sometimes it is difficult to get your contacts to forward a referral for you, especially if you want to add someone who is in your 3rd level of contacts. I ended up upgrading to professional and using the InMail feature. You might be able to land lunch with just the right person potentially resulting in a huge account. The $200/yr. price tag doesn’t look so bad after all. You can also search for the individuals e-mail address via Google and make a few guesses if you have to. Add the user to your network and when it asks how you know the individual click “Other” and paste their e-mail address. I have had people e-mail me back asking how I know them. This is the perfect opportunity to strike up the initial conversation which will typically lead to a beautiful business relationship.

o5. Sync your LinkedIn account with Outlook. What many people don’t realize is that once a contact accepts your invitation, you have access to their e-mail address. Go figure! The free LinkedIn toolbar automatically syncs you r Outlook contact information with your LinkedIn account. It will also notify you if one of your colleagues changes jobs on you and leaves you sad and alone.

o6. Maintain your profile and contact requests! We’re all busy people running around like little chickens with our heads chopped off but networking has to be on purpose. Many contacts in my network never update their information. It can be for a variety of reasons but for the most part it is sheer laziness. Keeping your information updated and responding to network requests is a good indication that you’re an organized business professional. If you don’t want to add somebody for whatever reason then decline their request. Some executives won’t add you unless they have physically met with you in person. To each their own I suppose.

o7. Market yourself. It is the information age and we all want to have our information accessible 24x7x365. Everything is digital and if you’re still networking through a Rolodex you need to update your life. Place your LinkedIn profile’s URL on your business cards, in your blog, on your e-mail signature, and for thrill factor you can even tattoo it on your forehead. Other LinkedIn Nazi’s suggest search engine optimization techniques but I find that word of mouth and good ‘ol grassroots marketing does just fine.

o8. Use some common sense. Some LinkedIn users add everybody they can get their grubby little paws on. I’m all for a good amount of contacts but where do you draw the line? Some profiles come across as either severely unprofessional or borderline spam. You don’t want to be one of those guys. Guy Kawasaki only has 223 connections and I’m guessing he could easily be one of those “500+ contact guys”, but he isn’t, and unless you’re ridiculously famous then you shouldn’t be either.

o9. Take advantage of all that LinkedIn has to offer. Where there is no counsel, the people fall; but in the multitude of counselors there is safety. With the Answer’s section in LinkedIn you can easily ask anybody in your network a question and you’ll typically receive great answers. LinkedIn is a great place to post jobs as well. When employees use LinkedIn it gives an employer the option to check references as well as other people in the company that can chime in on the employee’s work ethic. I guess LinkedIn isn’t all smoke and mirrors after all.

1o. Enjoy yourself. So many people view networking as a chore or obligation. Yes, it is an obligation if you want to build a solid framework leading to great business relationships and accounts but it can be fun at the same time. After a few solid hours of productivity I’ll browse LinkedIn for a while and respond to requests and messages. Quit stressing about it, drink your Starbucks, and let LinkedIn seep into your veins.

There’s this feeling deep inside my spirit that I know can never be quenched fully. It’s very difficult to express but I would say it’s somewhere between a feeling of emptiness and a longing of apocalyptic proportions. It is my desire to win souls for Christ. I’ve always smirked at that coined phrase, “Winning souls.” As if they’re some sort of prize. Then I realize that there is a very real war going on between good and evil. When you pluck an individual from the clutches of hell there’s a reason to celebrate… because that is one less person living in eternal torment. One more disciple can mean a hundred, even a thousand for the kingdom. I’ve always been good at multiplication and the ripple effect holds true when you’re the real deal… a no holds bar type disciple. What does it take to satisfy this urge within me? My heart wrenches over the unexplainable tragedies in this world; poverty, disease, famine, war, etc.

I see a savior above a barren land with His hands coupled over every circumstance, every heartache, everything evil in this world, as if to say, “I have everything under control.” I believe in a just God who cares about every intricate detail right down to the hairs on our head. I believe in this so passionately that I am willing to bank my life on it. A God who lives. A God who died for me. A God who heals, covers, protects, and fights for my sake. A God who loves those who hate Him. A God who forgives those that sin against Him. A God beyond measure. Beyond human comprehension.

While the desire flickers in the storm, deep down inside of me lies embers that can never be extinguished. The flame becomes an inferno. The inferno sets the world on fire. Let it burn.



As I stare at an image of a child at the brink of death something inside me… an inexpressible stirring of pain and anguish was ignited. Perhaps it is because this child is the age of my youngest son. Maybe It’s because I somehow feel called to leave a legacy during my short lifespan to prevent similar atrocities from occurring. Even changing the life of one child would make all the difference to me.

I ask God, “Why Lord?” as tears drip onto my watch. The irony is that the $100 I spent on my watch could have easily fed an entire family for more than a year. What am I doing about this?

A $2 million dollar house on the lake, a $100,000 BMW, $200 designer jeans, and a $5,000 Breitling watch… and for what? I can’t do it. I refuse to… not like this.

I keep this picture as a reminder to myself. A reminder of the blessed life that my family and I have. A reminder that Capitalism can be used for philanthropy. A reminder that I am only a mere dot in the big scheme of things… but that If I fulfill my calling then my life has the potential to cause a ripple effect dramatically altering the lives of millions of people.

This is what I live for.

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